THIS SPACE IS A PAGE WHERE ANYONE CAN COME TO LEARN MORE ABOUT ISSUES .....
I will have short audios, articles & information about .....
Stress, anxiety, depression, suicide, bullying, self-love etc.
Please ring 000 if you are in immediate danger or Lifeline on 13-11-14
THOUGHTS, FEELINGS & EMOTIONS?
Have you ever thought people were talking about you when they weren't? Have you ever made a small issue into a 3rd world problem? Have you ever stayed up all night worrying about what might happen?
Well let me tell you .... your mind is controlling you, not you controlling your mind! Only you can get carried away with your thoughts, and cause unnecessary stress and anxiety. Well I am going to give you some tips on how not to let your naughty little mind play games with you, causing all sorts of confusion.
Please try the meditation I have written below and see if it helps calm your mind. I also have them scattered throughout this page x
Your brain can be rewired in approx 8 weeks through positive repetition, not over-reacting and what you choose to focus on. Long story but it means neural pathways in your brain are strengthening the happiness pathways.
Every time a negative thought comes into your head, replace it with two positive thoughts.
When you are worried about what might happen, ask yourself .... do I need to be worrying about this yet? What can I do to distract myself?, or ... It hasn't happened yet so why worry twice?
Realise your thoughts are just thoughts, and not actual events.
Think of a good outcome rather than a bad one.
Deep breathe from the abdomen to calm down your anxiety, and tell your mind how relaxed you feel.
QUESTIONS TO WRITE DOWN &
What can I change within myself so I do not worry so much?
At the end of your day ... write down the small things that made you happy? e.g - a catch-up with friends, listening to birds, the warm sun etc
Think back to when you were a kid and you never worried, when do you remember things changing?
Write down what or who causes you stress, what could you do differently or how you can improve/change it?
What hobby or activity do you love to do? Choose one that makes you happy and want to do it more often?
MAKE A LIST OF THE 10 MOST IMPORTANT PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE .....
This is your tribe and you need to let them know how much they mean to you.
Write beside each person's name what their superpower is ...
could be listening, caring, hugging, making me laugh, great to talk to about my issues, always their for me, trustworthy etc
ALWAYS RING 000
if you are worried for your life
or are in immediate danger.
Always help others who may not be so lucky and do not have a tribe or a support system.
Keep an eye out for anyone who is being bullied, you may just save them from harm or suicide.
Don't be a sheep or an onlooker, be the bigger person and help out if someone is being bullied or belittled.
Learning Mindfulness is one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life, for keeping me calm and not worrying. I now have total control over my anxiety.
Slow down your pace of life, and take time to sit and watch the world go by.
Put down your phone as much as possible and live your life to the fullest.
Breathe in, Breath out
Bullying is when another person
or group of people cause verbal,
physical or psychological harm to others.
Most bullies are either jealous, unhappy with themselves, can't control their anger or have been bullied themselves.
Just remember Bullying is about them, & not you. They think they have power over you as you may be weaker, small or quiet.
Do not bully them back, walk away. 'A clown needs an audience' so don't let them see it is getting to you.
Keep your distance from them.
Be around your friends as they are less likely to bully you.
Talk to a teacher or adult that you trust about it.
Block them on social media and make sure your page is private.
They will eventually move onto someone else if there bullying is not getting the desired effect.
When you look at them - smile and feel sorry for them that they have to act that way, they must be sad and hurting inside.
Strengthen your mind and keep telling yourself how amazing you are, you will always be a better person than them!
Appear confident and bulletproof.
Talk to your parents or teachers about it.
Don't overthink it, just stay strong and imagine an invisible barrier around you where their words bounce off.
Remember what they are saying is only their nasty opinion and the aim of their words is to hurt or scare you. They are really talking about themself .... not you!
Become an advocate for bullying and help others in the same situation, it is very therapeutic and can change someones life.
Never let them take away your power and beat you down. You are wonderful just the way you are xxx
Stress & Anxiety
To reduce Stress and Anxiety you need to try and catch the emotion or build-up early. When you feel stress coming on you need to shut it down before it sets off your fight 'n' flight mode.
Practice Deep Breathing as often as possible
Think of as many positive things as possible
Count to 10 backwards
Remove yourself from the stressful scene
Be around positive people who make you feel relalxed
Listen to your body more - it is telling you how it feels
Look after yourself first & practice self-love
Go for a brisk walk
Anti-Stress First Aid Kit
TURN OFF TV OR MEDIA
BE AROUND POSITIVE PEOPLE
MOVE AND BE ACTIVE
SAY NO TO AVOID OVER-COMMITTING
EAT HEALTHY & TRY NEW RECIPES
ENJOY THE SMALL THINGS & BE MINDFUL
BE AWARE OF YOUR BODIES NEEDS
LIVE IN THE PRESENT
LIVE CLUTTER-FREE - GREAT TIME TO DE-CLUTTER
PRACTICE DEEP BREATHING
HAVE A MORNING ROUTINE
SUICIDAL THOUGHTS ......
If you are having suicidal thoughts and need a reason to reach out for help, just know that there are a lot of people out there who care about your wellbeing - I certainly do!!
Feelings change in an instant and your mind can play tricks on you into thinking the worst .... learn coping techniques such as deep breathing or counting backward from 100.
Suicidal thoughts are not permanent .... you are just feeling this way at this particular time in your life & you feel there is no other way out, no way to stop your pain - but there is!!
Talking, counselling, support groups, creating a support plan, medication & just by reaching out for help earlier rather than later - can help you live a fulfilling & happy life.
A secret shared is a secret halved - so talk about how you feel? Did you know most people who are suicidal do not actually want to die, they just want the pain to stop!
Distract your thoughts by deep breathing, talking to someone or counting from 100 backwards until you reach help and safety.
Do not EVER feel embarrassed, worried of being judged or unsure of who to talk too - there is ALWAYS someone to reach out too. This feeling is more common than you think!
There is a solution to every problem but right now you just can't see it!! Let someone else help you to see it instead and embrace the support.
HOW TO HELP SOMEONE ....
If you know someone out there who may feel suicidal - ask them how they feel and really listen to how they feel without telling them similar stories you have heard.
You can ask them outright "are you having thoughts of suicide?" Tell them that you are here to seek help and support for them
Stay with them until you find an adult who can help with the matter further, or in an emergency ring the following no's:
LIFELINE AUSTRALIA - 13-11-14 or for emergencies ring 000
If we all help each others, listen more, and speak out if something does not feel right TOGETHER we can help heal